The Dating Files: The B Word

I find the very notion of putting labels on relationships a little annoying. In my younger days I think I focused too much on that who process. But didn't we all? Constantly asking questions about what this was and where things were headed. But, in my ridiculously old age I've realized a lot of that stuff doesn't matter. When it's time to have a discussion about that stuff, it will happen. Otherwise, just try to relax and enjoy someone's company. But I am a lady and sometimes we over think things, sometimes that annoying girl voice creeps in. But it's not just me, I can't tell you how many people have asked if the guy I've been seeing is my "boyfriend," yet? The word "boyfriend" makes me feel a little bit like I'm 16. But what are the other options? Beau? Paramour? Boo? My Dude? Or my personal favorite, ManFriend? I feel like it always end up back at boyfriend. I may as well just embrace it, right?

So, the question is when does a boy become a boyfriend?

Here are some thoughts in numbered list form because I know how much you like your lists...

  1. You're not dating anybody else...
  2. And you haven't been for like four months...
  3. You've taken down my OkCupid profile...
  4. You've cooked for each other (he made Pad Thai, you made roasted veggie tacos and chicken noodle soup, not together though.)
  5. You've had our first fight...
  6. You're starting to plan summer trips...
  7. He's met your mom...
  8. AND (perhaps most important of all) She gave the all important and quite coveted Mom Seal of Approval.

Alert the media, y'all. It looks like I have a boyfriend.